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Christian man, husband, father, father-in-law, and granddaddy

It IS a wonderful life!


happy new year 2016I make the point annually to watch Jimmy Stewart’s popular holiday portrayal of George Bailey in It’s A Wonderful Life [1] (required viewing in my estimation for all who work daily to make a difference in people’s lives).

In a scene in the early minutes of the presentation, angels are talking in heaven of this person, George, in their endeavor to know more about him and enter into his world to offer assistance.

Clarence, the 2nd grade level guardian angel who eventually is assigned to task, asks, “What’s the matter with George. Is he sick? Is he in trouble?” “Much worse,” is the reply, “he’s discouraged.”Wonderful-life

George gets his wish (“I wish I’d never been born”) and eventually is led through a process of seeing the world as it would have been had he never been born.

The conclusion for his circumstances is identical to others – we do make a difference and our positive actions and kind words accumulate much greater than we could ever imagine. It is often difficult to keep an optimistic attitude, but we must.

People indeed observe and model what they see and hear from us. It’s humbling but certain that we have an influence in the eternity of another’s soul.

We each occupy a small fraction of space in this world. We do and must make a difference in the lives of others.

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[1] A good but slightly ineffectual man tries to off himself after an error that really wasn’t his fault. In Christmas carol fashion, his crusty-but-lovable guardian angel shows up to give him a tour of the world without his presence, and it isn’t a pretty place. Moral courage, small-town American life, civic cooperation, and family love are glorified; corporate greed and self-involvement are vilified; at the climax, a blanket of snow like spun sugar makes everything pure and clean like redemption itself.

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Posted by on January 1, 2016 in Encouragement

 

Some easy ways to improve your marriage


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 Eric/Wendy’s November 2015 newsletter from Kigali, Rwanda

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Improving your marriage doesn’t necessarily have to involve huge changes on your part or your spouse’s. Many times, the cumulative effect of small changes can make a significant difference in the quality of a relationship. It can be discouraging to only focus on the big, sweeping long-range changes that you feel are needed, such as improved communication or increased intimacy. Instead, focus on making several small changes that can affect the quality of your relationship right away.respect

Once you generate some positive energy flow, it’ll be easier to tackle the larger issues. Plus, you’ll be more motivated to put forth the effort and to keep trying. Here are some easy ways you can improve your marriage:

  1. Schedule date nights on a regular basis. Did you know research by Idaho State University shows that one of the secrets to a happy marriage is scheduling regular dates? This study involving 132 couples found those who went on dates more often (the average was six dates a month) were more likely to be satisfied with their marriage than those who spent less time together. So get out your calendar and schedule some times for you and your spouse to go out and spend time together doing something you both enjoy. Doing everything with the children and not spending time alone with your spouse can be a way to try to avoid sex or to minimize romance. It’s a mistake to think this won’t hurt your marriage in the long run—because it will.
  2. Show respect when you’re talking to your spouse. You may not realize you’re doing damage to your marriage when your spouse is talking to you and you sigh with exasperation and roll your eyes. Psychologist John Gottman has conducted research on what attitudes increase the chances that a marriage will end unhappily. He has found contempt is the most damaging, and he says rolling your eyes when your spouse is talking to you is a classic sign that communicates contempt. You’re giving your partner important information about how you really feel about him (or her) when you show disrespect.
  3. Make time for vacations. The Wisconsin Medical Journal reported that when 1500 women were asked how often they took a vacation, 20% said that it had been six years or more. These non-vacationers were more likely to be stressed and unhappy in their marriages. Every day life can get so bogged down with details, work, and loose ends that fun and romance can easily become buried and neglected. Remember the old saying, “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.” The same is certainly true of relationships—if there’s no time to play and have fun, then dullness, fatigue, and boredom often take hold. Passion and romance thrive on stimulation, building positive new memories, and the excitement that change brings. Just leaving home and seeing and doing different things can be energizing and perk up a stale relationship. The vacations don’t have to be expensive or exotic. Put on your creative thinking cap and see what’s possible.
  4. Remember to hug your mate each day. Doctors at the University of North Carolina have found that hugging boosts blood levels of oxytocin, a relaxing hormone that is linked to trust. According to Kathleen Light, Ph.D., professor of psychiatry at UNC and one of the study’s authors, “It is safe to say that oxytocin is linked to emotional as well as physical closeness in partners….” Make it a point to initiate more hugging, and don’t be bashful about asking for what you need and want. Note: If “hugs = sex” in your marriage, it’s time to make a change. Many wives complain their husbands only touch them—hold hands, hug, kiss, snuggle—when the husbands want sex. These wives often try to avoid physical contact with their husband because they don’t want to get him aroused. This leads to a pulling away and a lack of on-going closeness and connection. Thus, it’s important that hugging not be just a prelude to sex.
  5. Celebrate days that are special to the two of you. Take the time to record the special days on your personal calendar so you won’t forget. Through the years, I’ve heard many spouses express hurt that their mate never buys them a gift, even for their birthday. There’s no special dinner or birthday cake—nothing.  They might not receive a Valentine’s Day card or a Christmas present, either. I’m always sad to hear this, because it seems like such a loss of an opportunity to celebrate. And the message delivered to the mate is she (or he) isn’t valued and treasured. Life is short, and you can’t take your beloved partner for granted. Look for every opportunity to celebrate your love, your marriage, and the fact that you’re alive!
  6. Smile More Often. A genuine smile can warm the heart and make you more attractive to your spouse. That’s because smiles are sexy as well as contagious, and the energy they produce can give you and your spouse a needed boost just when you need it the most. A warm smile invites your spouse to come closer, to connect with you, and to linger in your presence. You’ll feel better and so will your spouse.
 
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Posted by on December 31, 2015 in Marriage

 

Pressure From Every Side


I want us to begin by thinking of the word “chaos”?
· Theory that explained what went wrong in “Jurassic Park”?
· Your teenager’s bedroom?
 
I want to draw a working definition of chaos from Genesis 1:2:
(Gen 1:2) “Now the earth was formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters.”
 

Chaos: “a vacuum, a void, an emptiness … not filled and transformed by the voice or Word of God.”.
 
We often spend time talking about the culture in which we live and admitting that our culture is in a MESS.
 
But this is only symptomatic of a much deeper problem: void/vacuum/ emptiness that exists at center of American soul:
· A void marked by an absence or a poverty– of self-restraint, moral absolutes, compassion, civility.
· Void that cannot be filled, only exacerbated by drugs and alcohol, violence and immoral sex (real or vicarious), money, power or material goods.
 
Jim McGuiggan, in his book Caution: Men at Work…if the sign says “GOD at Work,” there is hope: for that’s what undid the chaos in beginning.
 
Talking about what we “DON’T” won’t do; to merely adopt a “prophetic” tone by cursing the darkness encourages among us the spirit of self-righteousness or superiority.
 
Our goal is to allow Peter to issue a call to Christian excellence and holy accountability.
 
The first action of God when it was time to create the universe? Deal with the chaos. That’s what God does!
· Where there is void, he wishes to fill it by His creative power
· Where there is emptiness and loneliness and chaos, He goes to work to bring into being something orderly and meaningful and beautiful.
 
(Isa 45:18-19)  “For this is what the LORD says– he who created the heavens, he is God; he who fashioned and made the earth, he founded it; he did not create it to be empty, but formed it to be inhabited– he says: “I am the LORD, and there is no other. {19} I have not spoken in secret, from somewhere in a land of darkness; I have not said to Jacob’s descendants, ‘Seek me in vain.’ I, the LORD, speak the truth; I declare what is right.”

Our God is a God of revelation…not of chaos but truth … did not cloaked His being in nature, but has spoken to us, once through his prophets, now  “by his Son, whom he appointed heir of all things, and through whom he created the universe.” (Heb 1:1-2)

Jesus told a chilling parable about that:

(Mat 12:43-45) “”When an evil spirit comes out of a man, it goes through arid places seeking rest and does not find it. {44} Then it says, ‘I will return to the house I left.’ When it arrives, it finds the house unoccupied, swept clean and put in order. {45} Then it goes and takes with it seven other spirits more wicked than itself, and they go in and live there. And the final condition of that man is worse than the first. That is how it will be with this wicked generation.”” (some have called this the Parable of the Haunted House.).
 
What makes this especially chilling: He was talking about not about houses but people …empty people: empty of joy, empty of authority; empty of Lordship, empty of God.
 
If ‘nature abhors vacuum’… then Satan loves one…he loves to “repossess” empty hearts.

The problem with chaos?: something WILL fill an emptiness, rush in to fill the void: that’s why people watch 40 hrs TV/wk … take drugs … hire prostitutes … shop till they drop … join cults — to fill the emptiness! (by no way am I listing items here in the order of harm done).
 
But any fullness but God’s…only deepens the hunger, only intensifies the emptiness, until the “final condition worse than first.”
 

What has PETER to say to us about the CHAOS? 1 Peter is written to a church in the midst of culture at best indifferent, at worst hostile, to it.
 
Roman culture was willing to tolerate Christians so long as they kept their religious notions to themselves … so long as they exhibited a broadminded spirit.
 
But this, Church of Jesus Christ could not do that… so they were persecuted.. (1 Pet 2:9-10): “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. {10} Once you were not a people, but now you are the people of God; once you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy.”
 

Peter’s wonderful strategy is to address this head on, immediately, from the first sentence in his letter: “Dear scattered strangers … spiritual exiles.”
 

Conventional wisdom today: always go “inclusive” … but Peter knows he must appeal to their set-apartness (holiness) if he is to keep Church from conforming to the Chaos of the secular world.
 
‘Yes, as “strangers in this world” they were made to feel strange … as “resident aliens” they experienced alienation … “peculiar people” will be looked upon as peculiar.
Peter’s words are sympathetic and supportive, but blunt and foreboding:  ‘I know these are tough times for believers … and they could get tougher.”
 
So he speaks to them of “TRIALS”:

(1 Pet 1:6-7) “In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. {7} These have come so that your faith–of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire–may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.”

(1 Pet 4:12-13) “Dear friends, do not be surprised at the painful trial you are suffering, as though something strange were happening to you. {13} But rejoice that you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed.”

What is the purpose of trials? To force or encourage us to get at the TRUTH.
 

Interesting: the kinds of “trials” Peter speaks of, which would serve to reveal truth and the genuineness of their faith, were largely VERBAL: several different words are used in the verses: insults, slander, malicious talk: verbal violence. (2; 12, 3:9, 3:16, 4:14)
 
“Persecution” in 1 Peter: initially it was not in the form of Polycarp in the arena … but verbal rejection: slings and arrows of outrageous co-workers, or neighbors, who (4:4) “think it strange that you do not plunge with them into the same flood of dissipation”
 

Today it would be the person who is ridiculed because he won’t laugh at their sexist joke, who won’t stand quietly by and tolerate racist language, who won’t keep the gossip alive, who won’t trade insult for insult.
 
Along the way, Peter indirectly speaks of different “trials” — internal ones: evil desires (1:14), malice, deceit, slander, hypocrisy” (2: 1), even feelings of resentment, that they were undergoing trials (4:12)!
 
Peter’s challenge: Silence your critics, persecutors, peer-pressurers … with your LIVES.

(1 Pet 2:11-12) “Dear friends, I urge you, as aliens and strangers in the world, to abstain from sinful desires, which war against your soul. {12} Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us.”
 

Show them how Christians love … care … serve … speak … “do good” (Peter’s signature phrase in this epistle) … and if need be, die.
 
Story of a minister who found out he was going to die in next year of cancer…wondered what he would do with his time” “Thought of resigning my duties at church, so I could travel, or rest; then I thought, no, for years now I’ve been telling my church how to live … I figure now I have a chance to show them how to die. (I preached at a congregation in Mansfield, Ohio, that had a youth minister who had cancer and knew he would die in a few months…he stayed on the job and even made a video that was played at his funeral).
 
Four Items Which Bring About Chaos
A. Absence of Biblical authority.
(1 Pet 1:13) “Therefore, prepare your minds for action; be self-controlled; set your hope fully on the grace to be given you when Jesus Christ is revealed.”
 

(1 Pet 3:15-16) “But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, {16} keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander.”
 

Chaos will always result when there is no authoritative source of truth. What fills that void? The WORD OF GOD, the revelation of God who has always spoken the truth, who always declared what is right.
 
Truth is not merely some abstract body of orthodox religious laws – truth is that which makes life work…grow…to be rich and full … in contrast, lies are what make our lives small, shrink and die.
 
Every society needs voices that keep asking the right questions of its values: Are they true? Not, fashionable, sophisticated, profitable, my right … but is it RIGHT?

(1) Is materialism true?

(2) Is individualism true?

(3) Sex okay between consenting adults?. Not if your body was created by God, and purchased with a price.  

But — I fear we are becoming more and more ill-equipped to answer the Chaos. While we were known as “People of the Book” in years past —for some, that has become more an honorary designation than an earned one.

1:13: “Prepare your minds for action.”

Gird up loins, roll up sleeves. We’re going to have to THINK!
 
3;15: “Be prepared to give an answer”

Apologian/defense/a reasoned response. Some Bible paraphrases offer to define that answer (Phillips: “quiet and reverent answer”) That is, not mean-spirited, not argumentative, not condescending.
 
A Biblically illiterate church will surely fall victim to “AIDS”: Acquired Immune-Deficient Spirituality.
 
When our faith is on trial, we will be found immune and deficient: no answer/ reason to offer for our hope … and hope without a reason is ultimately hopeless. People who know their theology … will not be such easy prey to modern secularism, or theological liberalism, or New Age pantheism. 

Absence of moral identity. 

  1. (1 Pet 1:15-16) “But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; {16} for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.””

    Peter makes sure his church knows who they are:
    · God’s elect/chosen (1:1-2) obedient children (1:14)
    · blood-bought redeemed (1:18-19) living stones in spiritual house (2:5)
    · holy priesthood (2:5) holy nation (2:9)
    · people of God (2: 10) free servants of God (2: 16)
    · brothers … saints … CHRISTIANS (4:16; only 2 other times, Acts).
     
    Morality grows out of, radiates from, identity.
     
    In Peter’s day, Christians could take a trip to Pompeii and gaze at erotica that decorated walls of public/private buildings; today, log onto internet and type in “SEX”: far and away the most popular search word on internet (did a search for this lesson and came back with “about 1,84 trillion results (0.35 seconds).
     
    Such confusion: tv/movies/professional sports has sought to give a legitimacy to the new paganism … not by argumentation and thoughtful reason … but by presenting images of attractive people doing shameful things.
     
    C. Absence of the experience of transcendence.
    (1 Pet 1:8-9) “Though you have not seen him, you love him; and even though you do not see him now, you believe in him and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy, {9} for you are receiving the goal of your faith, the salvation of your souls.”

When Timothy Leary died a few years ago, he reminded us of the amazing decade of 60’s … psychedelic excursions into transcendental meditation and drug-induced mystical experiences (Leary, a hippie to end, was still exploring the wonders of reefer madness).
 
What drove that misguided quest, still drives much drug use today: HUNGER … for experience of transcendence (cheap substitute): something thrilling, be it faster roller coaster, stunningly-violent movie (“Pulp Fiction”), or a hit of crack cocaine.
What we have to offer is not some religious adrenalin experience (“getting high on Jesus”) .….but the possibility of a living relationship with transcendent God, creator of the deepest joys the human heart can know.
 
I am not talking about some contrived emotionalism or cheap sentimentalism (where we turn down the lights and sing “Kum Ba Ya”) … but centering our worship upon Almighty God, singing hearty praises to our risen Lord.
 
(1 Pet 1:3-6) “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, {4} and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade–kept in heaven for you, {5} who through faith are shielded by God’s power until the coming of the salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time. {6} In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials.” 

Does that capture the spirit of your worship service? It should. 

 
D. Absence of a Sure Foundation.
(1 Pet 2:4-6) “As you come to him, the living Stone–rejected by men but chosen by God and precious to him– {5} you also, like living stones, are being built into a spiritual house to be a holy priesthood, offering spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ. {6} For in Scripture it says: “See, I lay a stone in Zion, a chosen and precious cornerstone, and the one who trusts in him will never be put to shame.””
 

Terry and I were in the Northeast for a weekend seminar/meeting when we realized we were a few hours from Washington, D.C. We went to see Mr. Lincoln, arriving around 10 pm on a very cold February evening. We saw what has been called “a craggy face captured in Georgia marble” by Daniel Chester French:

  • All worldly standards: Lincoln was an ugly man.
  • A Charleston paper: “horrid looking wretch”
  • Houston paper: “leanest, lankest most ungainly mass of legs and arms and hatchet face ever strung on a single frame.”
  • Another paper simply referred to Lincoln as “the gorilla.”
  • But our affection for Lincoln transcends physical features. We see beyond the ‘obvious’ and look at the heart and character of the man’s life.

Peter: They looked at the Master, rejected him (as Isa. 53 said) … perhaps because He was so ordinary, perhaps because He asked for so much.  

But we look at the alternatives … there is no other foundation. Nothing else fills the Void. For as his Father did at that first dawn, He has dealt with the Chaos (of our sin), and thus we are re-created in Him.
 
Conclusions
Our Age looks into the Chaos and says: “Let me indulge your every desire … Let me substitute illusion for Truth … Let me distract you, thrill you, entertain you … Surely this will fill your emptiness.

 
Our God looked into the Chaos and said: “Be strong, be faithful, be true.
 

1 Pet 1:18-21: “For you know that it was not with perishable things such as silver or gold that you were redeemed from the empty way of life handed down to you from your forefathers, {19} but with the precious blood of Christ, a lamb without blemish or defect. {20} He was chosen before the creation of the world, but was revealed in these last times for your sake. {21} Through him you believe in God, who raised him from the dead and glorified him, and so your faith and hope are in God.”

 
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Posted by on December 28, 2015 in Sermon

 

Marriage…both serious and humorous


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Eric/Wendy’s December 2015 newsletter from Rwanda

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The jokes are endless. They usually come from one who has learned to laugh at his mistakes, but they also can reveal a lot of pain:

  • Marriage is a gamble. You start with a pair. He shows a diamond. She shows a heart. Her father has a spade. There’s usually a joker around somewhere, but after a while he becomes a king, and she becomes a queen. Then they end up with a full house.Marriage-Crisis
  • One woman said to another, “Aren’t you wearing your wedding ring on the wrong finger?” the other replied, “Yes, I married the wrong guy.”
  • Man is incomplete until he is married. Then he is really finished.
  • Marriage is an institution in which a man loses his bachelor’s degree, and the woman gets her master’s.
    One man said, “I never knew what real happiness was until I got married; and then it was too late.

The failures will continue until God fills our marriages … the two really become one … the one fulfills the other… love is given fully and freely … giving is more important than getting … one considers the other more important than self, and selfishness retreats in defeat … each keeps his/her promises, and vows are not just words repeated after the preacher but are lifelong commitments … kindness rules the days, and helpfulness fills the moments … sex is love … and being together is love … and being apart is love … and arguments are loving … and monotony is love … and routine is love… ’til there is not “you and me,” but only “US.”

“… (man) shall Cleave Unto his Wife: and they Shall be One flesh”Genesis 2:24

 
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Posted by on December 24, 2015 in counsel

 

The church: is it a radical community?


Eric/Wendy’s December 2015 newsletter from Rwanda

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Letter to Diognetus (AD 125): “Although they live in Greek and barbarian cities alike, as each man’s lot has been cast, and follow the customs of the country in clothing and food and other matters of daily living, at the same time (Christians) give proof of the remarkable and admittedly extraordinary constitution of their own commonwealth. They live in their own countries, but only as aliens…they busy themselves on earth, but their citizenship is in heaven. They obey the established laws, but in their own lives they go beyond what the laws require. They love all man, and by all men are persecuted…

blood of lambLetter to Hadrian (AD 125): “The Christians know and trust their God…If any of them have bondwomen or children, they persuade them to become Christians for the love they have toward them; and when they become so, they call them “brother” without distinction. They love one another…If they see a stranger, they take him into their dwellings and rejoice over him as a real brother; for they do not call each other brother after the flesh, but after the Spirit of “”God. If any among them is poor and needy, and they do not have food to spare, they fast two or three days that they may supply him with necessary food. But, the deeds which they do, they do not proclaim to the ears of the multitude, but they take care that no man shall perceive them. Thus they labor to become righteous. Truly, this is a new people and there is something divine in them.”

(Mark 3:32-35)  “A crowd was sitting around him, and they told him, “Your mother and brothers are outside looking for you.” {33} “Who are my mother and my brothers?” he asked. {34} Then he looked at those seated in a circle around him and said, “Here are my mother and my brothers! {35} Whoever does God’s will is my brother and sister and mother.””

When the first Christians were made part of the New Testament church, begun on the day of Pentecost in Acts 2, they knew hardly anything of Jesus and nothing at all of the “church.” Yet, immediately, they were thrust into a fellowship of other believers – a radical, consuming community which supplanted every other loyalty.

What did the church look like? They “devoted themselves” to meeting with a relative strangers (Acts 2:42). They sold their possessions to support one another (Acts 4). They met daily with their new friends to worship and commune in each other’s homes (Acts 2:46). They even rejoiced together when suffering persecution and ridicule!

All this had a revolutionary impact on the families, businesses, and friendships of these first Christians. Old loyalties were exchanged for new ones. The church became almost overnight the primary “reference group” for its members. In the New Testament, the church commanded the primary allegiance of disciples. No other group of people was allowed to take precedence over God’s people.

Even family ties were subordinated to the family of God. Families of origin were put at risk and even broken:

(Mark 10:29-30)  “”I tell you the truth,” Jesus replied, “no one who has left home or brothers or sisters or mother or father or children or fields for me and the gospel {30} will fail to receive a hundred times as much in this present age (homes, brothers, sisters, mothers, children and fields–and with them, persecutions) and in the age to come, eternal life.”

This radical sense of community was true of the first century church. Is it true of the church today? Is it true that many other loyalties compete with our devotion to the body of Christ?

All that mattered in the 1st century was being in Christ. (Gal. 3:26-29)  “You are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus, {27} for all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. {28} There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. {29} If you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise.”

We have an opportunity in this place at this time to rediscover what a radical community the church of Jesus can be. Are we willing to place as much importance on being together and serving each other as the early church? Can we adopt a new ethic for living life in this community? Perhaps we need to realize that the church is God’s means of saving us, and that we cannot make it alone!

Unity was demanded at Corinth by Paul. Read 1 Cor. 1:10-16 and 3:1-3.

Some evils of division. 1. Division among believers is wrong because it is directly opposed to the prayer of Jesus.

  1. Division among believers is wrong because it is contrary to the Scriptures.
  2. Division among God’s people is wrong because it results in a waste of time, means, and energy. Just imagine how powerful God’s cause would be if all believers worked in harmony!
  3. Division is wrong because it retards the salvation of lost souls. Several have told me that they are going to “try” every church until they find the right one.“ Sinners are confused by the conflicting doctrines and practices of various religious groups. Unity an individual obligation to Christians. (Eph 4:3) “Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” Close by reading of the divine standard of unity. Eph 4:4-6.

How divisions can be avoided?  2 Timothy 2:14-23 (ESV)
14  Remind them of these things, and charge them before God not to quarrel about words, which does no good, but only ruins the hearers.

23  Have nothing to do with foolish, ignorant controversies; you know that they breed quarrels.

 
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Posted by on December 24, 2015 in Church

 

Countries that have visited this site in 2015


2015 in reviewEric/Wendy’s December 2015 newsletter from Rwanda

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COUNTRIES

United States

VIEWS

1,199

China 38
Philippines 23
United Kingdom 10
Canada 10
Bahamas 8
Norway 8
European Union 7
Brazil 7
India 7
Australia 6
Russia 5
Rwanda 5
Nigeria 5
Ghana 5
Singapore 4
France 4
Thailand 4
Taiwan 4
Hungary 3
Italy 3
Romania 3
New Zealand 2
South Africa 2
Hong Kong SAR China 2
Tanzania 2
Netherlands 2
Nepal 1
Saudi Arabia 1
Denmark 1
South Korea 1
Puerto Rico 1
Montserrat 1
Kuwait 1
Germany 1
Malaysia 1
Ireland 1
Belgium 1
Peru 1
 
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Posted by on December 19, 2015 in Article

 

A composite description of Jesus’ righteous person


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Eric/Wendy’s December 2015 newsletter from Rwanda

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The beatitudes are a composite description of Jesus’ righteous person. He is not talking about eight different kinds of people who follow God.He is talking about basic qualities of righteousness that are typical of the person that God acknowledges to be righteous. Those eight qualities are:

  1. The righteous person is poor in spirit, or, he or she recognizes his or her spiritual poverty and owns that spiritual poverty.
  2. The righteous person mourns, or, because he or she sees and owns his or her spiritual poverty, he or she is grieved because that poverty exists.
  3. The righteous person is meek, or gentle, or under control.
  4. The righteous person is famished for righteousness–he or she has a consuming appetite for righteousness, that is what he or she wants and wants to become.
  5. The righteous person is merciful–the person who abuses them, or offends them, or hurts them, or treats them unjustly will receive mercy, not justice; and the righteous person will extend mercy to those who have failed.
  6. The righteous person is devoted to developing and having a pure heart; he or she does not merely want to look pure in deeds; he or she wants to be pure within.
  7. The righteous person is a peacemaker; he or she is the kind of person who can help those who are alienated find reconciliation.
  8. The righteous person is willing to endure suffering and mistreatment for Jesus’ sake.

Those who would accept Jesus’ description of a righteous person:

  1. Would receive comfort for their spiritual grief.
  2. Would endure in this world.
  3. Would have their craving for righteousness satisfied.
  4. Would receive mercy when they made mistakes and failings.
  5. Would see God.
  6. Would be called God’s children.
  7. The kingdom of heaven belongs to them.
  8. Had citizenship in God’s kingdom.

 

 

 

 
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Worship versus Waste – Matthew 26:1-16


spikenard-anointing-feet-of-JesusMatthew 26:1-16 (ESV)
1  When Jesus had finished all these sayings, he said to his disciples,
2  “You know that after two days the Passover is coming, and the Son of Man will be delivered up to be crucified.”
3  Then the chief priests and the elders of the people gathered in the palace of the high priest, whose name was Caiaphas,
4  and plotted together in order to arrest Jesus by stealth and kill him.
5  But they said, “Not during the feast, lest there be an uproar among the people.”

Matthew does not claim to give us a chronological account of the events of the last week. At this point he inserted a flashback to describe the feast in Bethany and the beautiful act that Mary performed.

The religious leaders were meeting to plot against Jesus, but His friends were meeting to show their love and devotion to Him. Also, by joining these two accounts, Matthew showed the connection between Mary’s worship and Judas’ betrayal.

It was after the feast in Bethany that Judas went to the priests and offered his help Mark 14:10-11 (ESV)
10  Then Judas Iscariot, who was one of the twelve, went to the chief priests in order to betray him to them.
11  And when they heard it, they were glad and promised to give him money. And he sought an opportunity to betray him.

The feast at Bethany took place “six days before the Passover” (John 12:1) in the house of Simon the leper. Apparently he had been healed by the Lord Jesus. There were at least seventeen people at this dinner: Simon, Mary, Martha, Lazarus, Jesus, and the 12 Apostles. True to her character as the “doer” in the family, Martha did the serving

Luke 10:38-42 (ESV)
38  Now as they went on their way, Jesus entered a village. And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house.
39  And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to his teaching.
40  But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.”
41  But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things,
42  but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.”

Mary (v. 7).

6  Now when Jesus was at Bethany in the house of Simon the leper,
7  a woman came up to him with an alabaster flask of very expensive ointment, and she poured it on his head as he reclined at table.

The three key persons in this event are Mary, Judas, and Jesus. Only John identifies this woman as Mary, sister of Martha and Lazarus. She is found only three times in the Gospels, and in each instance she is at the feet of Jesus.

She sat at His feet and listened to the Word: Luke 10:38-42 (ESV)
38  Now as they went on their way, Jesus entered a village. And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house.
39  And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to his teaching.
40  But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.”
41  But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things,
42  but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.”

She came to His feet in sorrow after the death of Lazarus John 11:28-32 (ESV)
28  When she had said this, she went and called her sister Mary, saying in private, “The Teacher is here and is calling for you.” 29  And when she heard it, she rose quickly and went to him.
30  Now Jesus had not yet come into the village, but was still in the place where Martha had met him.
31  When the Jews who were with her in the house, consoling her, saw Mary rise quickly and go out, they followed her, supposing that she was going to the tomb to weep there.
32  Now when Mary came to where Jesus was and saw him, she fell at his feet, saying to him, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.”

She worshiped at His feet when she anointed Him with the ointment (our study today). Mary was a deeply spiritual woman. She found at His feet her blessing, she brought to His feet her burdens, and she gave at His feet her best.

When we combine the Gospel records, we learn that she anointed both His head and His feet, and wiped His feet with her hair. A woman’s hair is her glory (1 Cor. 11:15). She surrendered her glory to the Lord and worshiped Him with the precious gift that she brought. It was an act of love and devotion that brought fragrance to the whole house.

Because she had listened to His word, Mary knew that soon Jesus would die and be buried. She also knew that His body would not need the traditional care given to the dead because His body would not see corruption. Instead of anointing His body after His death, she did so before His death. It was an act of faith and love.

Judas (vv. 8-9). 8  And when the disciples saw it, they were indignant, saying, “Why this waste? 9  For this could have been sold for a large sum and given to the poor.”

The disciples did not know the true character of Judas. His criticism of Mary sounded so “spiritual” that they joined him in attacking her. We know the real reason Judas wanted the ointment sold: The money would go into the treasury and he would be able to use it: John 12:6 (ESV) 6  He said this, not because he cared about the poor, but because he was a thief, and having charge of the moneybag he used to help himself to what was put into it.).

Notice that every time Mary sought to do something for Jesus, she was misunderstood:

  • Her sister Martha misunderstood her when Mary sat at Jesus’ feet to hear Him teach the Word.
  • Judas and the other disciples misunderstood her when she anointed Jesus.
  • Her friends and neighbors misunderstood her when she came out of the house to meet Jesus after Lazarus had been buried John 11:28-31 (ESV) 28 When she had said this, she went and called her sister Mary, saying in private, “The Teacher is here and is calling for you.”
    29  And when she heard it, she rose quickly and went to him.
    30  Now Jesus had not yet come into the village, but was still in the place where Martha had met him.
    31  When the Jews who were with her in the house, consoling her, saw Mary rise quickly and go out, they followed her, supposing that she was going to the tomb to weep there.

When we give Jesus Christ first place in our lives, we can expect to be misunderstood and criticized by those who claim to follow Him.

Jesus (vv. 10-16). 10  But Jesus, aware of this, said to them, “Why do you trouble the woman? For she has done a beautiful thing to me.
11  For you always have the poor with you, but you will not always have me.
12  In pouring this ointment on my body, she has done it to prepare me for burial.
13  Truly, I say to you, wherever this gospel is proclaimed in the whole world, what she has done will also be told in memory of her.”

He immediately came to the defense of Mary, for He always protects His own. He rebuked Judas and the other disciples and praised Mary for her loving act of devotion. Nothing given to Jesus in love is ever wasted.

Her act of worship not only brought joy to the heart of Jesus and fragrance to the house, but also blessing to the whole world. Her devotion encourages us to love and serve Christ with our very best. Such service brings blessings to others that perhaps we will know nothing about until we see Him.

Jesus did not criticize the disciples because they were concerned about the poor. He was concerned about the poor, and we should be too. He was cautioning them against missing their opportunity to worship Him. They would always have opportunities to help the poor. But they would not always have the opportunity to worship at His feet and prepare Him for burial.

Whatever the answer to the question of identification, the story is indeed what Jesus called it—the story of a lovely thing; and in it are enshrined certain very precious truths.

It shows us love’s extravagance. The woman took the most precious thing she had and poured it out on Jesus. Jewish women were very fond of perfume; and often they carried a little alabaster phial of it round their necks. Such perfume was very valuable.

Both Mark and John make the disciples say that this perfume could have been sold for three hundred denarii (Mk 14:5; Jn 12:5); which means that this phial of perfume represented very nearly a whole year’s wages for a working man. Or we may think of it this way. When Jesus and his disciples were discussing how the multitude were to be fed, Philip’s answer was that two hundred denarii would scarcely be enough to feed them. This phial of perfume, therefore, cost as much as it would take to feed a crowd of five thousand people.

It was something as precious as that which this woman gave to Jesus, and she gave it because it was the most precious thing she had. Love never calculates; love never thinks how little it can decently give; love’s one desire is to give to the uttermost limits; and, when it has given all it has to give, it still thinks the gift too little.

It shows us that there are times when the commonsense view of things fails. On this occasion the voice of common sense said, “What waste!” and no doubt it was right. But there is a world of difference between the economics of common sense and the economics of love.

Common sense obeys the dictates of prudence; but love obeys the dictates of the heart. There is in life a large place for common sense; but there are times when only love’s extravagance can meet love’s demands. A gift is never really a gift when we can easily afford it; a gift truly becomes a gift only when there is sacrifice behind it, and when we give far more than we can afford.

It shows us that certain things must be done when the opportunity arises, or they can never be done at all. The disciples were anxious to help the poor; but the Rabbis themselves said, “God allows the poor to be with us always, that the opportunities for doing good may never fail.”

There are some things which we can do at any time; there are some things which can be done only once; and to miss the opportunity to do them then is to miss the opportunity for ever. Often we are moved by some generous impulse, and do not act upon it; and all the chances are that the circumstances, the person, the time, and the impulse, will never return. For so many of us the tragedy is that life is the history of the lost opportunities to do the lovely thing.

It tells us that the fragrance of a lovely deed lasts forever. There are so few lovely things that one shines like a light in a dark world. At the end of Jesus’ life there was so much bitterness, so much treachery, so much intrigue, so much tragedy that this story shines like an oasis of light in a darkening world. In this world there are few greater things that a man may do than leave the memory of a lovely deed.

Matthew 26:14-16 (ESV)
14  Then one of the twelve, whose name was Judas Iscariot, went to the chief priests
15  and said, “What will you give me if I deliver him over to you?” And they paid him thirty pieces of silver.
16  And from that moment he sought an opportunity to betray him

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Answering the prayer of Jesus


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 Eric/Wendy’s November 2015 newsletter from Kigali, Rwanda

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A little fellow wished to pray but had never been taught how. He, thus, began to recite his ABCs as he knelt. A man passing by overheard the lad and inquired, ‘Son, what’s going on?’ ‘I’m saying my prayers,’ replied the boy. ‘But why the ABCs?’ the man asked. ‘Sir,’ came the answer, ‘I don’t know how to go about praying, so I thought if I said my ABCs God would take what he needed and spell out the words to match my wants.’

With childlike innocence, this little fellow believed in prayer.

Jesus also believed in prayer. In fact, Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John compositely recorded several occasions where Jesus went apart to pray. For example, all of John 17 projects a prayer of Jesus which may be divided into four segments: (1) For Himself (17:1-5); (2) For the apostles (17:6-19); (3) For the church (17:20-23); and again, (4) For the apostles (17:24-26).

Let’s focus on ‘Christ’s prayer for the church’ (17:20-23). ‘Neither pray I for these alone, but for them also which shall believe on me through their word; that they may be one; as thou, Father, art in me, and I in thee, that they also may be one in us: that the world may believe that thou hast sent me. And the glory which thou gavest me I have given them; that they may be one, even as we are one: I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one; and that the world may know that thou hast sent me, and hast loved them, as thou hast loved me.’

This pulsates with a plea for harmony. According to ‘Christ’s prayer for the church,’ harmony is a challenging possibility. He prayed that all who believe on him through the apostles’ word might ‘be one…be one in us….be one…be made perfect in one.’

In each of these petitions, the subjunctive mood of the Greek language was used, indicating an objective reality! Harmony among Christians is more than an illusive dream or noble sentiment. Encouragingly, it is a very real possibility.

A case in point to prove such would be the first century church of Jerusalem (Acts 2:42, 44-46). They were united in their support of fearless Gospel preaching (4:24-29). They were united in their benevolent spirit and sacrificial care (4:32). They were also united in their support of church discipline (5:1-12). By example, they established the possibility of harmony existing in the church.

Therefore, the subject of harmony among Christians should be approached with a positive attitude. When it comes to unity in the church, negative slurs [‘Well, that sounds good,’ or ‘It would be nice,’ or ‘That is just youthful idealism’] should be CANNED. After all, success comes in CANS not CAN’TS!

If Jesus’ prayer for the church implied the possibility of harmony in the church, it is a possibility; yea, it is a possibility that challenges every congregation and heart of the church.  — condensed from Harmony Among the Heirs of Heaven, Dan Winkler

Children in Church

  • Three-year-old, Reese: ‘Our Father, Who does art in heaven, Harold is his name. Amen.’
  • A little boy was overheard praying: ‘Lord, if you can’t make me a better boy, don’t worry about it. I’m having a real good time like I am.’
  • A Sunday school class was studying the Ten Commandments. They were ready to discuss the last one. The teacher asked if anyone could tell her what it was. Susie raised her hand, stood tall, and quoted, ‘Thou shall not take the covers off the neighbor’s wife.’
  • Jason sobbed in the back seat all the way home. His father asked him three times what was wrong. Finally, he replied, ‘That preacher said he wanted us brought up in a Christian home, and I wanted to stay with you guys.’
  • I had been teaching my three-year old daughter, Caitlin, the Lord’s Prayer for several evenings at bedtime. She would repeat the lines of the prayer after me. Finally, she decided to go solo. I listened with pride as she carefully enunciated each word right up to the end of the prayer. ‘Lead us not into temptation,’ she prayed, ‘but deliver us some email. Amen.’
  • One four-year-old prayed, ‘And forgive us our trash baskets as we forgive those who put trash in our baskets.’
  • A Sunday school teacher asked her children, as they were on the way to church service, ‘And why is it necessary to be quiet in church?’ One bright girl replied, ‘Because people are sleeping.’
  • Six-year-old Angie and her four-year-old brother Joel were sitting together. Joel giggled, sang, and talked. Finally, big sister had had enough. ‘You’re not supposed to talk in church.’ ‘Why? Who’s going to stop me?’ Joel asked. Angie pointed to the back of the church and said, ‘See those two men standing by the door? They’re hushers.’
  • A mother was preparing pancakes for her sons, Kevin, 5, and Ryan, 3. They began to argue over who got the first pancake. Their mother saw the opportunity for a moral lesson. ‘If Jesus were sitting here, He would say, ‘Let my brother have the first pancake. I can wait.” Kevin turned to his younger brother and said, ‘Ryan, you play the part of Jesus!’
  • A father was at the beach with his children when the four-year-old son ran up to him, grabbed his hand, and led him to the shore where a seagull lay dead in the sand. ‘Daddy, what happened to him?’ the boy asked. ‘He died and went to Heaven,’ replied the Dad. The boy thought a moment and then said, ‘Did God throw him back down?’
 
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Posted by on December 10, 2015 in Prayer

 

Confident Children and How They Grow — Blessing or Bother?


Eric and Wendy’s November 2015 report from mission work in Rwanda

How could I ever forget the birth of our first child? It was early in the morning and I was rather groggy, but even through the fog of the years I can still project on the screen of my mind some vivid scenes from my memory bank. I can still see the doctor announcing with a note of happy triumph, “It’s a girl!”raising-children-through-positive-parenting-05

Little did I realize it at the moment, but I would hear that very same announcement two more times, each with a little less of the happy triumph. After all, variety is the spice of life, and what father in his right mind doesn’t want a little girl to put her arms around his neck and say, “I love you, Daddy.”

I have learned, however, that God knows far better than I do what my needs are. Since he gave me those boys, and since they are exactly what I need for my own spiritual growth and blessing, no human being could make me give any one of them up of my own volition. Next to the wonderful wife the Lord has given me, they are the most precious things in this world to me. Those beautiful words of the ancient poet of Israel have taken on new meaning

Psalm 127:3 (NIV) Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him. (5) Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate. “

It is quite obvious that somebody wrote that a long time ago. There are not many people in 21st century America with the Psalmist’s viewpoint on children. A modern version might sound more like this: Lo, children are a burden from the Lord; and the fruit of the womb must be his way of testing us. As the source of endless work and continual aggravation, so are the children of one’s youth. Unhappy is the man who hears his neighbor ask, “Do all those kids belong to you?”

We can understand why folks might feel that way. Many children are rebellious, disobedient, disrespectful, and unmannerly–not very pleasant to be around. It’s no wonder that some people have decided not to have any at all. What has gone wrong? Where did we lose God’s perspective? The first verse of Psalm 127 may provide us with a clue. “Except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that build it.”

Stable and successful homes are built by God. He is the architect and the general contractor. He has drawn the blueprint, and he wants to provide the direction and give the orders. All he needs are some laborers–husbands, wives and children–who will study the blueprint provided in his Word, then follow his di­rections. Any other procedure is going to result in frustration and failure.

The basic problem in many homes is that we have departed from God’s blueprint and have substituted man’s. God is no longer the architect and builder. We are following instead the blueprint drawn by psychiatrists, psychologists, modern educators, doctors, and even syndicated columnists. Much of the advice we get from these sources is good. But if some parts of a blueprint are good and other parts are faulty, the result is going to be a weak building.

The Bible is still the best textbook ever written on rearing children. We need to find out what it says and obey it. “Except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that build it.”

It is gratifying to note an increasing alarm about the situation. Newspaper and magazine articles, along with a growing number of books on the subject, are warning people of the dangers of an unhappy home and are trying to help them repair the damage. The information may be helpful, but unless people are willing to turn their hearts and homes over to the Lord, it may be too little too late.

Listen to the Psalmist again. “Except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.” No ancient city was safe from attack no matter how thick its walls nor alert its guards unless God was protecting it. Likewise, no home is safe from the attack of Satan unless it has been consciously committed to the Lord, unless he has been put in charge.

The homes where Jesus Christ reigns as Lord in the lives of every family member are the homes that will tower above the rest in love, serenity, happiness, mutual concern one for another, and the ability to adjust to people outside the home.

Some folks think there are other ways to produce a happy home. For example, “Work, work, work, as hard as you can. Provide all the material things of this world for your children. Maybe that will make them happy.” If dad doesn’t make enough money to do it, mom goes to work too.

Read on in Psalm 127. “It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows; for so he giveth his beloved sleep.” The bread of sorrows is simply bread secured through toil and trouble. Food is essential, but God can provide it without taking fathers and mothers away from their children day and night to pursue that elusive and almighty dollar.

God has no time for laziness. He blesses honest work, but he can supply the things we need without anxious efforts and ceaseless self-activity. The Psalmist says God provides for his beloved ones, literally, “in sleep,” the idea being in calm, restful, confident trust in him.

The society in which we live has perverted our perspective. We have been sold a bill of goods, the false theory that we owe our children all the things they want. We hear parents say, “But we want them to have all the things we never had.” So they have things, but they don’t know who they are, or why they are here, or what they ought to accomplish in life. The most incor­rigible rebels in our society are not necessarily the under­privileged. They are kids who have had all that money can buy but were never loved, appreciated, and accepted. (Borrowed)

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Posted by on December 7, 2015 in Family